Kimberly Lock is an inspirational speaker, a mother of five children, the wife of a pastor and a minister of the gospel of Jesus Christ. She has counseled and guided many women within their congregation. Lock also facilitates a bimonthly women’s forum to address and mitigate issues according to the Word of God. Lock obtained her bachelor’s degree from the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee with an emphasis in management and information systems. She also obtained her master’s degree in telecommunications. She published her first book: "Who You Callin' Silly? How a Silly Woman Becomes Virtuous," in 2012 with TriMark Press. In 2016, Tate Publishing picked up her 7-book children's series: "The Disregarded Voice of a Child," also known as "The Mommy Series." These books encourages talk therapy and promote open dialogue among elementary-age children and their mothers. They are available nationwide through Barnes & Nobles and Amazon.
Before we can verbalize an expression through our mouths, more than likely we have already thought on what we would speak. You have put together what you will say and how you will say it, before it is spoken.
Communication means to transmit or pass on thought, feeling, or information from one person to the next. Before I can pass on what I say or feel, I have to internally process it.
The Bible says:
“It’s not what goes into your mouth that defiles you; you are defiled by the words that come out of your mouth.” Matthew 15:11 NLT
What comes out of your mouth is a reflection of what is already in you. As you read this, consider what is in your heart. This basically means, what you inwardly feeling or what thoughts about a person or come to mind when you think about that person?
To communicate godliness you have to be godly in your heart, in your mind, and you have to practice godliness.
Although we have all heard the term godliness used a few times, allow me to provide a quick and easy definition for godliness.
In its simplest understanding the entire Bible is a book on godliness, being God-like. Acting like God. Responding like God. Full of God-like qualities.
The ability to teach, demonstrate and communicate godliness means that we must be able to communicate in non-threatening, and non-defensive ways.
If we cannot imitate God, according to the scripture, how can we teach about Him? At what point do we deny ourselves? At what point do we present ourselves a LIVING sacrifice?
Here is a rule of thumb: If you do not know how to answer or may run the risk of offending someone through your reply, simply do not respond. Wait. It is best to say: “Let me get back to you,” or “I’ll speak with you later,” versus spewing choice words that you will feel guilty for saying.
If the Holy Spirit is your guide, He will make certain, that you realize your communication was not godly, oh and be prepared to apologize.
What is the point?
Control your feelings, so that your feelings don’t control you. If you control your feelings, you can control your thoughts. If you can control your thoughts, you can control what you say.
“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” Colossians 4:6 NIV
Sometimes things occur in life that rattle us and take us off course (or so it appears).
In our quest to better ourselves, we sometimes allow the wrong people or the wrong connections to occur, which delays our purpose.
Perhaps this sounds like you.
You thought that you were making the right business decision.
You thought that person would be a life-long friend that you opened your heart to.
You thought the relationship would transition into until death do us part.
Regardless of what comes up against you, YOU have the power to control the end result. It’s okay if your kindness was mistaken for weakness. It was not faith that you were taken advantage of, but that’s okay.
The end result of the matter is that you WIN!
John 6:70-71 (NKJV)Jesus answered them, “Did I not choose you, the twelve, and one of you is a devil?” He spoke of Judas Iscariot, the son of Simon, for it was he who would betray Him, being one of the twelve.
Jesus chose a devil to show you that the enemy cannot stop you. Just as Jesus used the enemy’s scheme to fulfill His ultimate purpose, the Lord will use the enemy’s ploy against you to fulfill His purpose through you.
Romans 8:28 (NKJV)And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.
Yeah, it looks bad; it feels horrible, but wait until you see what God does with this situation.
Don’t worry about the Judas in your life. Let him/her go. Their evil deed will produce God’s plan. Do as Jesus did (John 13:27); tell them: Hurry up, do what you gone do so I can reach my destiny on time.”
Let’s invoke a plan for an intentional prayer. You don’t need great swelling words; simply talk to your heavenly Father with respect and humility, as you would expect your children to talk to you.
The Five Finger Prayer
The thumb is closest finger to you. Start praying for those who are closest to you. They are the persons easiest to remember.
The next finger is the index. Pray for those who teach you, instruct you and heal you. They need the support and wisdom to show direction to others. Always keep them in your prayers.
Next is the middle finger and stands the tallest. Remember our leaders, the governors and those who have authority. They need the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
The fourth finger is the ring finger. I have read (surprisingly) that this is our weakest finger. Spiritually speaking, it is the finger we give so much attention to and often causes us to give into temptation in an effort to find commitment and relationship with a spouse. Let this be a reminder to pray for the weakest, the sick, the loss, those feeling alone, and the hurting soul. They need our prayers.
And finally, we have our smallest finger. Your pinkie should remind you to pray for yourself. When you are done praying for others, you will be able to see clearly, how to pray for yourself with the proper position (humility) and the proper perspective.
Psalm 62:5-8 New Living Translation (NLT) Let all that I am wait quietly before God, for my hope is in him. He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress where I will not be shaken. My victory and honor come from God alone. He is my refuge, a rock where no enemy can reach me. O my people, trust in him at all times. Pour out your heart to him, for God is our refuge.
And when you are uncertain of what to say, repeat this prayer. The prayer Jesus prayed was unselfish. Jesus addressed God as the Father of all. He reverenced God’s name, He asked for God’s will to be done. Jesus asked if God would to take care of our daily needs and to forgive those and we forgive others and that whatever temptation arises that God leads us away from it and delivers us from any attack of evil.
Matthew 6:9-13 New King James Version (NKJV) In this manner, therefore, pray: Our Father in heaven, Hallowed be Your name. Your kingdom come. Your will be done On earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, As we forgive our debtors. And do not lead us into temptation, But deliver us from the evil one. For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.
Remember not to lose hope in times of crisis. This is when we see God move.
Try having a conversation on a phone without phone service.
Try starting a vehicle without an engine.
Try using a microwave without electricity.
You can try, but they won’t function as promised. It is impossible!
Try living life without a true relationship with Jesus, and you experience no peace. You may say: “That is not true. When I was doing this or was (is) with that person…or when I see these celebrities with thus and so, they have peace.” The presence of things give an illusion of peace.
Our physical eye gravitate towards the environment we live in. Right now, our environment is primarily a worldly perspective. We are in this world, but not of it. What this means is that if you confess the Lord Jesus to be your personal Savior, your character and mannerisms should not mimic those who do not; there should be a distinct difference.
The peace that the world depicts is counterfeit and temporary peace. Always having to look over your shoulder, is not peace. Just as it is impossible to properly chew food without teeth, is impossible for us to believe that we can have peace and joy without the Lord, when they originate from Him.
Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” John 14:27 NKJV
If we allow the peace of God to rule in our hearts, then we become publishers of peace. Let me share a few examples.
If you’re always launching missiles with your tongue, being rash with your mouth, you’re not a peacemaker. You’re becoming a peace breaker, and you are forfeiting your blessing.
“Blessed are the peacemakers, For they shall be called sons of God.” Matthew 5:9 NKJV
If your efforts lead to tension, arguments, disagreements, attitudes, divisions- then your attitude produces chaos and your life cannot be peaceful. Jesus told us to make every effort to do what leads to peace. Our resolutions and solutions to issues should lead to peaceful outcomes. That is what pursuit of peace looks like.
“Depart from evil and do good; Seek peace and pursue it.” Psalms 34:14 NKJV
There are some instances where a person will not desire to be peaceful, that should not prevent you from doing your utmost to reflect the image of Christ.
“If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.” Romans 12:18 NKJV
We have an obligation to “let the peace of God rule” in their hearts (Colossians 3:15). This means we have the choice either to trust God or to rely on ourselves. What choices will you make which truly leads to a quiet and peaceable life?
Making decisions is probably the most crucial act of all in our lives. In fact, the Lord gave us the ability to even choose if we want to be with Him. Although He is loving and demonstrates it everyday, it’s almost as if God is saying: “Okay, if you think you will find something better, go right ahead.”
“But if it seems wrong in your opinion to serve the LORD, then choose today whom you will serve. Choose the gods whom your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you live. But my family and I will serve the LORD.” Joshua 24:15 CEB
Doing and following through on your decisions is equally important. Your decisions have a major impact on your life.
Life basically boils down to this: Making the right decisions and the follow through. Making the right decision, however, depends on your emotional state. Having the wrong frame of mind will cause you to make the wrong decision, thinking it’s the best decision for your life. This produces what I’d like to call a “dysfunctional decision.”
A dysfunctional decision a condition of having poor, unhealthy behaviors and attitudes which can cause a person to function in an abnormal or unusual way. The Bible shares with us a story two sons and their dad, in the book of Luke, the 15th chapter. For the purposes of this devotion, we focus on the younger son.
The younger son asks his dad for his share of his inheritance because he was out- he was done!!! He was getting away from his father, his older brother and everything he knew. He was ready to “do him” and live it up, on his own and do his own thing. Here is what I wonder: The young man had it made. What prompted him to even desire to leave? I have no idea but the audacity of him. First of all, inheritance was typically given to the older son and the older was in control- unless the dad had already communicated what was gone be when he passed on. Hence the second point: The dad was STILL living. I could imagine the dad thinking: “So you asking for rights to something while I’m still here?” 🤔
Dad didn’t get an attitude. He granted his younger son’s request and the son went on his way. Pretty soon, after all the money is gone and the so called “best friends” have moved on, the younger son recognizes that he acted on impulse. He made a dysfunctional decision.
The prodigal (young) son made a dysfunctional decision that led him to hang out with the little piggies. However, hanging out with the little piggies actually worked on his behalf because the irrational and dysfunctional patterns disappeared- when the prodigal son was left with nothing but his thoughts; thoughts of who really loved him and not what he possessed. Thoughts of what really mattered in life.
Have you ever found yourself in a state of reality? After you had done all that you could think to do, deviating from the right thing, you were left alone to deal with the consequences of your behavior. And guess who was waiting? Your Father. He saw how the world was trying to beat you to a pulp. He could have intervened but he wanted you to want Him. When you came to your senses, your Father didn’t bring up your past. Although you had to suffer from choices you made, he welcomed you home with open arms. Just to have his son/daughter…safe in His arms, was all that mattered.
Do not allow yourself to have a “brain fart” as this young mad did. Sin is like a spiritual disease that corrupts our hearts and minds, causing dysfunctional behavior.
Have you ever heard someone say that the Lord speaks to us by His word, but we have to remove the words from the pages of the Bible and make them real? Today, I will demonstrate how we would actually do this. Check out this dialogue. Some references are general for a daughter or son, referenced as “the child,” while others are specific to a son or daughter.
The child: Hey dad, how are you? Our Father: The Lord is merciful and compassionate, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love. The Lord is good to everyone. He showers compassion on all his creation. (Psalms 145:8-9)
The child: Can I talk to you about a few things? Our Father: Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. (Matthew 11:28)
The child: I’ve been really going through. Our Father: Give all your worries and cares to me, for I care about you. (1 Peter 5:7)
The child: Nothing seems to be going right. Our Father: My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness. (2 cor. 12:9-10)
The child: I thought when I really started to listen to you and began to be obedient, things would get easier. But it seems like they are worse. Our Father: 1 Peter 5:8-9 (CEB) Be clearheaded. Keep alert. Your accuser, the devil, is on the prowl like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith. Do so in the knowledge that your fellow believers are enduring the same suffering throughout the world.
The child: Sometimes I feel so alone Our Father: Come close to God, and God will come close to you. (James 4:8)
The child: I’ve been hurt sooo bad! Our Father: I keep track of all your sorrows. I have collected all your tears in my bottle. I have recorded each one in my book. Psalm 56:8 (NLT)
The child: if you love me so much why do I have to go through so much? Our Father: 1 Peter 2:21-24 (NLT) For God called you to do good, even if it means suffering, just as Christ suffered for you. He is your example, and you must follow in his steps. He never sinned, nor ever deceived anyone. He did not retaliate when he was insulted, nor threaten revenge when he suffered. He left his case in the hands of God, who always judges fairly. He personally carried our sins in his body on the cross so that we can be dead to sin and live for what is right. By his wounds you are healed.
The daughter: Sometimes I can’t help but to think about how they really hurt me and took advantage of me. Do you not know that a person I used to call a friend gossiped about me? I’m so hurt by her and what she did Our Father: Proverbs 25:23 (NLT) As surely as a north wind brings rain, so a gossiping tongue causes anger! Luke 6:27-28 (NLT) “But to you who are willing to listen, I say, love your enemies! Do good to those who hate you. Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you.
The Daughter: And then…listen to this. The man that’s supposed to be my dad here on this earth…I am HIS seed. He has NOTHING to do with me and I have NO idea why. In fact, well you know this, I am his first born. We live right here in the same monkey city. He missing out on beautiful grands. He really SUCKS! Our Father: Psalms 27:10 When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take care of me.
The daughter: I’m just scared; I don’t know what to do. Our Father: Isaiah 41:10 (NLT) Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.
The son: I don’t really know how all this works. Our Father: Psalm 37:5 (NLT) Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust him, and he will help you
The daughter: I hear people say you talk to them. Can you PLEASE talk to me? Our Father: Job 33:14-17 (NLT) For God speaks again and again, though people do not recognize it. He speaks in dreams, in visions of the night, when deep sleep falls on people as they lie in their beds. He whispers in their ears and terrifies them with warnings. He makes them turn from doing wrong; he keeps them from pride
The son: I believe you are real, but man, I think I’ll go back to doing the things you say I shouldn’t Our Father: Galatians 4:8-9 Before you Gentiles knew God, you were slaves to so-called gods that do not even exist. 9 So now that you know God (or should I say, now that God knows you), why do you want to go back again and become slaves once more to the weak and useless spiritual principles of this world?
The child: it seems so hard to please you and to talk to you. Our Father: Hebrews 11:6 (NKJV) But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.
The daughter: I know I am your daughter. I know I am. Our Father: Yes…you are! Psalm 139:13 (NLT) You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb
The daughter: Here’s another thing: I really wanted to be with my baby’s dad. He said he was going to marry me but he hurt me sooo much and I stay and deal with it. I know it’s not love or what supposed to be like. I know this. But Why did I have to be the one to get hurt? Our Father: James 1:14-15 Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.
The child: Do you hear me? Why does it seem you don’t hear me? Our Father: (Isaiah 59:1-2) Listen! The Lord’s arm is not too weak to save you, nor is his ear too deaf to hear you call. It’s your sins that have cut you off from God. Because of your sins, he has turned away and will not listen anymore.
The child: I been learning – You’re my Father and you sent Jesus to help me get back to you because we upset you really bad back in the day, but how will I know what you want from me? Our Father: Luke 10:27 (NLT) You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your strength, and all your mind. And, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself
The child: I hear people talking about purpose. After all I’ve been through you MUST have something for me to do. How do I know my purpose? Our Father: Ecclesiastes 3:1 To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven:
The child: It’s crazy out here! People dying for nothing. People killing and robbing. Folks sitting in their car and being killed. Why won’t you stop this? Our Father: Psalm 37 Don’t worry about the wicked or envy those who do wrong. For like grass, they soon fade away. Like spring flowers, they soon wither. Trust in the Lord and do good. Then you will live safely in the land and prosper.
The child: I’ll never disrespect you. SO forgive me if I’m coming off all wrong. Our Father: Ecclesiastes 5:2 Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few
The child: Seriously, I do appreciate you looking out for me. Our Father: Isaiah 49:15 (NKJV) “Can a woman forget her nursing child, and not have compassion on the son of her womb? Surely they may forget, Yet I will not forget you
The child: I could have died but I know you were there. Our Father: Psalm 91:4 (NLT) He will cover you with his feathers. He will shelter you with his wings. His faithful promises are your armor and protection
The child: I just wanna know that you are really here with me. Our Father: John 14:15-18 (NLT) If you love Me, keep My commandments. And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him; but you know Him, for He dwells with you and will be in you. I will not leave you orphans; I will come to you
Our Father desires to talk to us and for us to know and experience what true love really is. He is waiting with open arms.
Conclusion We will never know God and learn what His expectations are of us, if we do not communicate with Him. Our relationship is established through the words that He has already spoken. We can find comfort in Him through the words spoken and given to us in the Bible. They will never change and they apply to any and every situation we have and will encounter in this life. Our Father desires to speak with us. Are we willing and ready to listen?