The book of Proverbs provide wisdom and knowledge in every aspect of our lives. This one particular verse, I have read, re-read and read again countless times. I came across it the other day and POW…another perspective came across my little ole’ mind.

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1(NKJV)

Normally when I read this scripture, I think of the other person- the person in the receiving end of the conversation. If I am calm in my reaction to someone who is negative in their response to me, when I respond in a peaceful tone, it will calm them.

Whelp!

How can I calm someone if I am not calm? The Bible provides basic instructions for us to self-reflect on who we are and how to become better people in Jesus. This scripture is personal.

A soft and gentle and thoughtful answer turns away wrath, but harsh and painful and careless words stir up anger. Proverbs 15:1 (AMP)

My soft answer will turn away MY wrath (anger). If I respond in the same negative tone as what is reciprocated, those words will not only cause me to become more angry and frustrated, but also to respond in an angry tone. It has to be in YOU first.

Protect your peace at all cost. Recognize what you cannot control. Get rid of toxicity in your mind, relationships and clean your space.

Speak softly and forget the “come back.” Your peace has a far greater price than moment of satisfaction and the reward of keeping your peace has more long term positive affects than the moment of embarrassment or point-proving that you are aiming to produce.